Listen to Erathoniel ranting on and on in good ol' conservative Christian fashion.
An short, sweet, long, rambling article on Internet Etiquette
Published on April 17, 2008 By erathoniel In Internet

    Welcome to my article about getting on the internet and not looking like a total ignorant biased jerk. I'm gonna make a list of no-no's.

  • No name calling. Not even if they deserve it.
  • If you do have to call someone something, use references to make sure it does not have any worse meanings than what you wish to imply.
  • Don't start flame wars, nor carry them on. You may mediate them, though. It's unlikely you'll get anywhere.
  • Most people, once anonymous, say whatever they think. Do not attack them solely for this.
  • Keep your language clean. It's a major problem, and makes you look like a barbarian. Seriously, you don't have to swear if you can think before you post.
  • Accept any criticism for face value. Do not retaliate.
  • Do not say anything to start a flame war. You will annoy somebody by directly attacking them.
  • If you keep your own site, remain impartial to your users.
  • The same runs true for blogs and forums. Be fair. Though odds are if you're new, you will have no problem here.
  • Take any advice, they're just trying to help you out.

    So, what do you think?


Comments (Page 1)
on Apr 17, 2008

Do not say anything to start a flame war. You will annoy somebody by directly attacking them.

Essentially that's the same as...

Don't start flame wars, nor carry them on. You may mediate them, though. It's unlikely you'll get anywhere.

Mediation doesn't quell a flame-war...by definition.

The only solution is to close the thread...

Or remove either combatant...or both....

 

EddyKating a 'Newbie' is no different to Eddykating a regular.....except the regular has seen how flames are handled and is [usually] already aware of the consequences...

on Apr 17, 2008
I wonder if it would have been better to post the Ten Commandments of Internet Etiquette of what you should do instead of what you shouldn't.  

Seems like a negative approach here. Just my thoughts.   
on Apr 17, 2008

Yeah, but you have problems directing guidance with the positive. I leave that for crummy self-help books.

on Apr 17, 2008
Yeah, but you have problems directing guidance with the positive. I leave that for crummy self-help books.
I direct through example, positive example preferably. 
on Apr 17, 2008

Best advice for Newbies is to 'LURK'.

If you sit back and watch what/how this new [to you] community does/says/handles itself  you can hop in and not appear quite 'odd' to the regulars.

Now and then someone pops into view suggesting some wonderous solution to a WB issue, say, but he's replying to a chap called 'Neil Banfield'.  Now, if he had lurked just a wee bit he may have discovered it was probably worse than teaching his grandmother to suck eggs...

When I 'got into skinning' and joined my first forum I lurked for quite a while....working out who was who and maybe what they were like....but particularly the appropriate way to interact.  OK, that was a while ago now....on Customize.org and skinz.org ....[and #skinners and #litestep on efnet].

It was a whole new world/experience...and I didn't really want to get off on the wrong foot...

on Apr 17, 2008

Lurking helps, but I find that newbies wanna get in as quick as possible. I lurked for a long time on the GH Forums, but others may not.

on Apr 17, 2008
my mom always said, before you speak consider this :
is it relevant?
is it constructive?
is it helpful?
wil it harm anyone (literally and figuratively )to speak it?
would you like to hear it coming back at you?
if you answer no the first three, you might want to reconsider your words or number five will be very painful in the end.
on Apr 18, 2008
my mom always said, before you speak consider this :is it relevant?is it constructive?is it helpful?wil it harm anyone (literally and figuratively )to speak it?would you like to hear it coming back at you?if you answer no the first three, you might want to reconsider your words or number five will be very painful in the end.


Wise woman, your mom.
on Apr 18, 2008
Moms are pretty good with advice but then my father left me with this one, carefull when you start pointing your finger at someone, there are always three pointing back at you. Took me awhile to understand that one.   
on Apr 18, 2008
EddyKating


Eddykating? I guess that really is the state of "EddykateShun" in the US today.   
on Apr 18, 2008
Jafo is an Aussie. (and it was a joke)

Long live edumacation!!
on Apr 18, 2008
my mom always said, before you speak consider this :is it relevant?is it constructive?is it helpful?wil it harm anyone (literally and figuratively )to speak it?would you like to hear it coming back at you?if you answer no the first three, you might want to reconsider your words or number five will be very painful in the end.


if my mum had told me all that.........i would have snapped out of my daydream and replied ..."can you write that down ?'

.....no memory ........
on Apr 18, 2008
I agree...good advice from erathoniel....... wish id lurked a bit more before i jumped in the deep end here so to speak...... but i had my tickbath this january.....nicities and help from now on.....no more taking the bait from me.... its not worth the tormenture of my soul.

ive now learnt to sit back, read, shake my head...smoke a few cigs and move on.......  
on Apr 18, 2008
I direct through example, positive example preferably.


He's still working on that!
on Apr 18, 2008
ive now learnt to sit back, read, shake my head...smoke a few cigs and move on.


What I do a lot of the time is vent a reply in notepad to get it out...then I just delete it.